…especially given my love affair with Jenny Slate lately. I’ve related to a lot of characters she’s played (especially when Stella had a UTI in Bored to Death), and I related to Donna in Obvious Child as well. I’m not usually into the cute-girls-being-gross-for-laughs thing, but I am a cute girl who is often a lot grosser than this character, and I kinda know how these things go.
Donna’s one night stand. You’re allowed to have them. You’re allowed to have them even if you’re not drunk and even if you are and even if you haven’t been dumped and even if you have. Donna and Max’s one night stand was a little too twee for me, but I was into it. Donna sneaking out shamefully in the morning really broke my heart though. A lady who talks about vaginal discharge and getting banged out on stage is still so sex-negative that she’s embarrassed about a drunk one night stand. BOO.
Max chases Donna. When that shit happens after an obvious one night stand, it’s usually creepy. And the guy doing it is usually a creep, not a cool business student tech guy who’s also a good writer (although that description sounds pretty creepy to me). We don’t need the follow-up to redeem the casual sex. The casual sex is fine on its own.
The abortion. I do appreciate Donna quickly and shamelessly choosing to have an abortion without consulting another person. I like that we see that she’s scared about her own body and has anxiety about just like, all the shit in her life that’s fucked up. I know those feelings. What I really don’t like is that everything-is-ok when Max shows up with flowers at the right moment, Donna apparently leaves her best friend on the curb?, and that our happy ending is Max taking care of Donna post-procedure. I really wanted to see Gaby Hoffman bring Donna more seltzer. I get so tired of friendship and non-sexual relationships being trumped by romantic/sexual relationships in my real life and in my pop culture.
I guess this is still a movie for people who like guy-gets-girl romcoms, which I wasn’t expecting. It is great to see abortion as a plot point treated this way, to some extent, but little is groundbreaking here. My head keeps going back to Greta Gerwig’s abortion in Greenberg, my second-favorite movie ever, and how much better I felt about how that was treated. Maybe it seems more realistic to me to be hanging out post-abortion with a much older, not very likable character who isn’t the almost-dad. Give that a shot.